You won't ever know, because you didn't give him that chance to sweep you off your feet. She wanted to take a break from me, and just be distant because she couldn't stand hurting me. I could feel the attachment and the resentment, it was tangible. She made me the happiest and most depressed person ever haha.. I couldn't have been happier to hold her in my arms, and couldn't have been more depressed to see her break away and turn her head.. Just to look me in the face with those morbid eyes, those eyes that just said, "No. So she asked for a break, and I said no, and let her go because I couldn't take the torture anymore..
We'd been down this road before.. I just became so tired of being the one that catches her when she's falling for some other guy that wants nothing from her I bled and bled, and bled; she can't make me bleed if I'm alone; the bleeding will stop once there's nothing left to bleed. All there's left is a gaping hole. Interesting to hear it from the guy's point of view isn't it? I decided to look up the meaning because it couldn't have been more perfect for everything that happened, four long, beautiful, painful years of loving my best friend.
It's sad to see she couldn't reciprocate the love I have for her, but I believe it's easier for me to let her go I didn't really get the song until I read your take on it, but you've got it exactly. And you know, it fits for me, too. Goodness, your story brought tears to my eyes. I wish you the best. Kibz This must be exactly how he feels And that hurts, again.
Flag destenvise on February 28, No Replies Log in to reply. General Comment The individual is caught off guard by the suddent realization that this person is the "one," the person that holds her heart. She feels secure and safe with him, she understands that it will be almost impossible to let him go, hence the "I believe that it's easier for you to let me go" statement.
She battles with her feelings and continues to go back and forth with him. He continues to accept her, no matter what. She doesn't understand why he would do this. She doesn't realize that he is just as "in love" with her as she is with him. She battles with her feelings and the realization that he could be her salvation, accepting him could save her, rejecting him will lead to her demise. However, even though she is batteling with her emotions and most likely sending off mixed signals, she hopes he will see right through her.
She is already falling in love and wants him to be the one who catches her. When she feels that sense of panic, feels like running, he holds her in his arms and she is home, safe, content. She hasn't had much luck in the past and doesn't feel she is worthy of love, which leads her to be more confused about this releationship. She doesn't want to leave him, however if she leaves him she won't be able to hurt him. She loves him so much she is freaking herself out, she doesn't want to hurt him, she doesn't want to get hurt, she is in a battle with her emotions and the love she has for him.
She's never let any one get so close, she's never been so vulnerable, and that scares her, but when he holds her in his arms he pulls her back to that secure feeling, home. I believe this is a beautiful song. It really captures the depth of that vulnerable feeling that accompanies love, that confused, scared feeling.
But it also captures the way love can pull us from that scared vulnerability into a feeling of safety and security. You covered it well except for the part "if she leaves him she won't be able to hurt him. When love is involved, there is usually hurt all around. As I learned in a college class on human behavior, we cannot have love without hate.
They go hand-in-hand with indifference being the opposite of love. Indifference brings peace while both love and hate bring heartache. I coudn't recall the name of this song even though each time it plays on the radio I am happy to listen. SO pleased CP was discovered; her gentle voice complements the down-to-earth lyrics of her songs. At present she reminds me more of an Adele. I hope that remains. Flag HairyPalmJoe on October 16, And yes HairyPalmJoe, hope she will remain as she is now Flag Mlin on November 29, My Interpretation I never thought that You would be the one to hold my heart But you came around And you knocked me off the ground from the start You put your arms around me And I believe that it's easier for you to let me go You put your arms around me and I'm home She never thought the he's the one she'll fall for.
A simple touch from him, like putting his arms around her, makes her feel safe and sound, loved and home. But with such strong feelings also gives her the thought- that having this feeling every time he hugs her, so intense and so much- that he loves her less than she is, or she loves him more than he is.
How many times will let you me change my mind and turn around I can't decide if I'll let you save my life or if I'll drown I hope that you see right through my walls I hope that you catch me, 'cause I'm already falling I'll never let a love get so close You put your arms around me and I'm home She's always having second thoughts about him, about them being together.
Well once again thank you for your time Lisa. I have seen the coldness and callousness of doctors many times. My father, who would have been 55 years old this year in September, died last year, February 23rd. He was hurting badly, then extremely, but was still working 40 plus hours a week at his hard job, welding, etc. He kept on and kept on seeing his family physician, and that physician kept on and kept on sending him referral after referral to a variety of other physicians.
I took him to various Emergency Rooms, time and time again, and they would give him pain meds and send him away. So, they kept him, ran tests, and found out he had cancer that had started in his liver and by now had spread to his other organs and bones hence, the immense pain he was in for SO LONG! He stayed for a week in the hospital and they sent him home and hospice pumped him so full of pain meds, he was incoherent and unable to speak or even walk. The physicians, medical staff, and of course, hospice, treated him like he was nothing.
Things HAVE to change. It is a travesty the way patients are treated by doctors, medical staff, the system, etc. I only wish my Father had a compassionate, caring physician when he needed one most. I am so sorry Kristina. Please know that doctors never wanted to harm patients. Many have been so harmed by the same healthcare system that victimizes patients.
This really does make you think, we always see that straight professionalism from our doctors, something we almost take as a given, so to see this side of things is very interesting and thought provoking. I just want to say thank all doctors for everything they do. Thank you all very much. I am a pediatric intensivist.
I think I was considered emotional when I was in training but am blessed to have a wonderful group of partners and interdisciplinary PICU staff who acknowledge and share in the pain. Even with that, the weight of what we do among other things is steering me towards early retirement. Admittedly, pediatrics is a different group of people; it is abominable that all medical specialties cannot recognize the personal side of being a healthcare provider.
KUDOS to the physician that allowed himself to be seen as a vulnerable, real person. Totally agree and you have inspired me to write a follow-up piece on this blog. Look for it in the next few days. We need you—and your tears. I cried reading this. I was poor and sick and had no where else to go. Now I learned I have found I have been suffering with CLL, chronic Leukemia which no doctor would admit to until I was put in a psyche ward and if I died there no one would care, I screamed for help and the orderlies just laughed for 4 years and been self treating with natropathic medicine like hawthorn berry for my heart and blood to prevent platelet aggregation and DIC.
Doctors are exploiting people and telling them this or that is good for them and if I had taken all that they gave me in pills I would be dead via doctors orders and apathetic negligence. One doctor acted like a human being. I hate each one of those who look on anyone without mercy. Sitting on the exam bed next to me maybe three feet away examining my limb. Last time he moved my joint during a exam, sitting on the bed beside me. I winced because of the pain. When he does discuss treatment he normally stands or sits normal to long distance away from me.
He did comment at my first consult I looked tense. I commend this doctor because he has true feelings! Being a nurse i understand how he feels. I see children die from illness and cancer and it is heart wrenching. We have to stay strong for the family as they grieve. Have some compassion for your healthcare workers because we need it!!
The major stressor for myself in medicine was to know how to treat the patient, but the patient was not insured, or his plan did not cover the treatment, and the hours taken away from patient care to do meaningless paperwork for insurers, medicare, constant useless requirement and expensive continuing medical education that had to paid for. I just came upon this article as I was searching for a piece of prose in relation to a patients demise and how they so very often reveal their deepest fears and dark secrets that have been festering in the recesses of their psyche for decades.
I am an ex hospice nurse and cried often with my colleagues over the years. We always said ….. All medical staff ,who work on such intense levels with humanity must have the best and consistent psychological assistance to maintain high standards of care for themselves and their patients. Sadly this appears to be too much to ask for. God willing this will change in the future.! Wible is right, as always. Doctors are people, too. I think the reality of medical institutions are that there is a general pretense that is expected to be upheld on both the part of the doctor, and of the patient.
Unfortunately, there begins the divide. I actually have seen a doctor cry. I have hugged my doctors many times , but most just want no part of that. I want to see us ALL be expressive. This change to the injunction against crying is most highly important to creating a culture that honors and supports healthy doctors and doctoring!!! I have many unfortunately.
I had a Dr who showed me such compassion in his office one day, just by putting his hand on my shoulder when I was crying. He moved away but we still keep in touch. They should be supported always and allowed to be human like the patients they serve. Everyone would reap the benefits. These huge teaching hospitals should teach doctors that it is okay to cry. Grieving rooms for staff are needed in every hospital. You think it is alright to use the patient, already suffering, in pain, confused about what is happening to them, to act as a teaching tool?
If you really believe that then you deserve everything you get. Your sympathy lies strictly with your peers. If I still believed in god I would ask him to forgive you, but there is no god there are only people pretending to be gods. We entered medicine as idealistic humanitarians just wanting to help people. We never signed up to be abused or to abuse others.
This is a cycle of abuse and needs to be discussed openly. Victims become victimizers and the cycle continues otherwise. My son-in-law was accidentally shot in the side with a 22 rifle.
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The bullet ricocheted around his abdomen ripping everything to shreds. At the time we were in a podunk town of only 12, At the hospital two doctors and four nurses tried operating for 8 hours to save this 22 year olds life, as we sat in the waiting room getting up dates every hour. When the 8 hours was up, the head ER nurse came out and said they were life lighting him to our town 15 minutes away by helicopter, but that he probably would not make it, he had lost to much blood because of the bullet shredding his insides he had bleed out.
When life lite got there we all were there to say something to him as he was wheeled out. When we turned to go to our cars to race to our town, both doctors and the four nurses were there crying just like we were. They said they wished they could have done more and that they all would be praying for him and us. An hour later I had to take my son-in-law off of life support.
The fact that we saw these doctors and nurses being just as human as we were meant the world to all of us. We all remained in touch with each other over the years. The good thing that came out of it was that in the next four years it took all of us down at one time or another, and because we stayed in touch we were able to help each other through those dark times , because, we lived it together we all understood the others feelings. If this had not been the case two of the nurses and one of the doctors would have committed suicide as well as a few of us.
We all shared this tragic bond and because of that we were able to help each other through the darkest time of our lives. My point is crying and compassion by a medical professional can be a good thing for all involved. There has never been any blame just love and light through the darkness. Doctors fight for and ratify the contracts that bind them to this way of life. They are the ones who decided it was alright to have poorly trained people looking after the vulnerable, not the public.
I do have empathy for many who were too naive to recognize what the trade-off meant, but you are the ones maintaining the status quo. You permit patients to be learning tools, nurse practitioners, orderlies giving shots, etc. I am not surprised at this result. But do not expect me to linger long on thoughts of suicidal doctors. How many patients die needlessly everyday because the doctor chose not to believe the patient? Too many in my family are dead because of deception on the part of so-called doctors. I myself have just been informed that the nystagmus I periodically suffer from is fake.
I have never faked anything, ever, and am not about to start now. Grief is a terrible thing…but when death and loss are needless…it never goes away.
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The doctor has a heart and feelings for life. It came naturally to him. He had to let it out, then he can be free. I found the doctor rude and aggressive most of the time so I must have been unlucky-glad to hear there are doctors who have feelings for the people who are left behind to grieve as well. When I finished medical school and residency thirty years ago, it was emphasized that we quell our emotions because the patient and family needed us to be the rock they could hold onto.
I remember cases in detail that make me sob still today. A mass shooting in our community occurred a year ago. All of my colleagues were stunned for months. None of us are immune.
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The sooner you give in to the emotion the healthier you will be. I find patients and families confronted with the most devastating moment of their lives, appreciates a doctor who will sit and cry with them, hold them and tell them that they will do evening thing to help.
Money or insurance never enters the thought process. I was at the peak of my career; solid education, intelligence, 18 years of experience of seeing every kind of illness, major trauma, total body third degree burns an awake patient that I had to tell her she would die shortly and would she like me to give all the pain medine possible and most likely hasten her death.
Her ex-husband in the next bay screaming in pain because he burnt his hand while dousing her in gasoline, I had to care for him too without judging. I will never get these thoughts out of my head. I cry about them daily. With very rare exceptions, I found my colleagues to be the same. Some were arrogant and took longer to learn, but they did. Occasionally I would get a thank you. I would run into someone at the grocery store and they would remind me I saved their husbands life.
A mother brought her ill child to the ED. She said she was so thankful I was on because I took care of her when she was her daughters age and correctly diagnosed her problem. I went into medicine to help people. I was a registered nurse for nine years before. The loss of being relavent. At least now I only deal with old memories and demons. I was raised by a father that rarely if ever gave out complements. It was expected that you would do a good job and a pat on the back was a waste of time. They will be shocked. Reach out and take their hand when talking with your doctor, they want the physical contact too.
It will make for a much more human experience! Thank you so much for sharing all of this. The more we can open up and be vulnerable and transparent with our feelings the sooner we can heal. Thank you so much for this.
We are taught to be professional. But it is awful to look a patient in the eye in their most stricken moment. I have cried for lost babies. Held the hands of dying men. Silently sobbed in hidden stairwells and screamed in the car on my commute home. This is the job. Sometimes it really, really sucks. And when a grateful patient or family member expresses gratitude, those objects, those words, become geodes. The ugly exterior hiding a stunning interior.
I have three boxes of Kleenex in my psychiatry office. I cried with a patient today. They were actually happy tears today, but I am open to sad tears, too. Thanks for everything you do Susan.
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I as a nurse, am accused all the time of showing to much compassion! I work at the prison and I try my best not to judge! They get cancer and die and other illnesses just like we do! I always feel some relief each time. This picture says what words cannot. Thank you to the paramedic who took it and the physician who allowed this private moment to be shared. This article has touched a nerve in me, and obviously many others. I appreciate the call for physicians to give ourselves and each other permission to cry, and to be human. I cried deeply over a teenage patient I lost to suicide earlier this year.
There is something different about losing a patient or a son or daughter to suicide, compared to other causes of death. My heart goes out to all dealing with life and death. I remember being in Tijajuana with our cancer infected friend Ruth. Paul Butterfield played harmonica while in the back seat as we drve from LA. Ruth had stage four cancer that had spread throughout her body. We were taking her for laetrile treatments. It was not going to cure but it eased her excruciating pain.
She asked me to take the night shift and I could not deny this angel anything. As I write this I find myself in uncontrollable shaking and in tears. Every night I gave her a hour plus massage. After weeks she asked I continua massage and to hold her. By five AM she sad thank you love and was limp in my arms. This was almost 53 years ago and I am cmpletely sobbing now from the painful memory of the loss a a beautiful 21 year old. As if this did not tear my heart out of me and left me with a hollow pit in my belly, I then had to go and tell Paul they eerent having their morning coffee.
Oh Ruth was only I am so sorry. Tears are cleansing though. I have to say my heart hurt when I saw thr picture of the Dr. A human life life he would most likely never have meet. It took me back to the night a high school football player had been rushed to the ER by paramedics after getting injured on the field. The emergency room over flowing down the hallway out into the parking lot. There were so many carting people there to support that family.
When the ER doctor come out to inform the family. I still remember how it took him a few minutes to retain his composure before he could approach the boys father to inform them of news that their son, brother, nephew, grandson, boyfriend and friend was gone. It was defistating the sound of their pain could be heard through the halls of the hospital out into the parking lot.
It goes without the deep agony that family was feeling. I know without doubt the ER doctor was feeling a loss as well. The pure agony the emptiness that family was feeling just being numb which goes without saying, Yet, they took the time to express their gratitude for how their son was treated and how hard they fought to save him.
The doctor who gave his all after talking to the family paying his condolences disappeared into the X-ray room. It was very visible the agony he was feeling as well. That is why, I am having a hard time accepting these doctors who have such little compasion that they can critisize any hospital employee for having warm blood running through their veins and having the natural emotion for a patient and the family as well. Rather a patient iis a day old or ninety eight. That family is still alive and is in pain.
The day we stop having emotions for the loss of human life is the day we all just need to throw our hands our hands into the air and give up. I much rather have an emergency room physician or any hospital employee to care about their patience than have someone as cold as the emergency room is taking care of me or my family. I think most docs come into medicine as caring, loving, feeling human beings. Some get very cynical and they become victims of the system and sadly they victimize others.
Id love him to be my Dr.
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Which brings me to point My Primary Long time Dr left private practice By sebding a letter in regular mail I have scripts that are important to keep me healthy and not Put me in danger of having stroje,seizure etc. I have no idea what ti do. Besides call LARA to file a complaint dye to noone take over his care for us. Where do you live? Maybe I can help find someone in your area for you to see.
You can also email me privately and confidentially here: Thank you for this article. Ive been married to an ER Physician for 20 years and never really knew or thought about how he must feel or deal with the death of his patients. I realize Ive been selfish. Ive heard all the complaints he gets from some patients and his explainayion why he was delayed in getting into their room.
But Like i said Ive never really understood. I understand my husband better because of this article. I agree Docs should cry. Louis and Louisiana for over 15 years and never once cried,until my mom died at 60 years old. Now I cry for and with my parents and family members. It makes us a better care giver. Being a nurse my heart breaks for them. Doctors can seem so stoic meanwhile inside they are ripped apart. As society advances it seems crying is being encouraged.
They are after all human such as the patients they try to help. Most of the people are thought that a doctor is heartless and I am full agreed with them. Every doctor has to be heartless according to the profession but this capture shows us the reality of doctors. They also being hurt when their patients is no more. Thanks Sharon for expressing your feelings on this topic.
You are right Pamela! But you will be surprised to hear that, there are also few doctors never care about their patients. They just care about the money. My nephew was dead one day before we got noticed by doctor. They just did it for billing us extra one day, can you just imagine it? But it was cleared by one other doctor who took all my sympathy. Not all are bad as well as good at any profession.
But doctors has to be great like you mentioned here……. I appreciate the emotions of the doctor.
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As a ER doctor I can feel your sorrow. Not unless you email me privately and have a very good reason for wanting me to get in touch with him on your behalf.
When you deal with death everyday, Drs should be allowed to grief and cry! But you can cry later so how is that different from a DR!!! I have two sensitive sons, but they are sensitive in much different ways. I will read them now! In the 21 yrs I have dealt with doctors n there have been many some might not remember my son or me but I remember their sincere care n concern for our well being.
Dr statopolous Peds in north central hospital ny She was young then I was 19 going on Ortho Shriners hospital Dr Peter Masso. Peds Dr Cheryl Tierney, ma no longer here. Was so down to earth, respectful and could be sassy. Loved her the most. Sees her more like a gram ma. Respects her even more. We have been bless to be surrounded by beautiful human beings who have a great heart n devotion to their jobs. There has been some unfortunate docs I have had but they have been like 2 out of a ton off good doctors in my 41 yrs. That was good enough for me. Any doctor who reads this I can not speak for all, but I can say as a parent of an ill son, a sister who has heart disease n a mother who died at 46 of heart disease your work is sooo important and you are worthy of respect and admiration.
Life sucks sometimes but you guys are the people we want in our corner taking care of our loved ones. From this corner of the world. You are the healers of the world. Many blessings to you and your children and next generation. It should not be a punishable act to be found crying at a hospital. Sad things happen at hospitals. So we need to cry. I would like to tell my story to others.
Hopefully, they may realize how they are doing an injustice to others whom really and truly are in pain. But when I go to the ER for help treating my illness, I truly and honestly appreciate the tremendous help I receive I say Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Saibu ,how he cured Mrs marry shalom from her heart disease with his herbal medicine, I contacted him and he guided me. I took the medicine as prescribed by him and 14 days later i was cured from lupus finally, all thanks to drsaibu2 gmail. Pamela Wible MD America's leading voice for ideal medical care. Heart-wrenching photo of doctor crying goes viral.
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